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Three Secrets for Dealing with Clutter

My client Kathy runs a very successful business that requires a lot of her time, so over the past few years she has not been able to keep up with the clutter at her home. Things just kept accumulating and it became quite an issue.  Clutter is a problem that to some extend all of us have to deal with these days!  Everyone has some amount of it, and while many learn to manage, for some it becomes a huge obstacle. This article was inspired to help Kathy and many others who are ready to do a round of decluttering.

My personal experience of moving frequently in my younger years, changing cities and countries, had taught me how to leave things behind.  But after settling down in my current home of 17 years, random stuff inevitably started piling up. It took some years of observing myself and others to fully understand the effects of clutter on our well being. I am not a clutter consultant but seeing so much of its negative impact in my feng shui practice has taught me a great deal about it and how to deal with it.

During our session, my clients get the necessary insights, a plan, and the motivation and energy to start decluttering.  After clearing out a few areas, energy starts to flow and it becomes easier to continue the process.  Once the space is reclaimed, we conclude by implementing feng shui recommendations to complete the transformation!  But sometimes more help is needed, so for some it is a good idea to work with personal organizer until things are under control.

My most significant personal experience with clutter happened during my last major remodeling round when everything had to be moved out of the second floor.  I’ve always thought of myself as a person who keeps clutter to a minimum so I was surprised by how much stuff had accumulated in my closets over the years.  There were things that I didn’t even know I still had because they were behind other things!  Among them were art purchases that didn’t work out, tons of my own photos and framing experiments, accessories that had since been replaced, lamps, pillows, and some random little things that had lost their meaning.  It was pretty obvious that I don’t need most of this, and I realized that this had actually been weighing on my subconscious for some time. There was a feeling of tension, irritation, disharmony, heaviness and even guilt that I could now attribute to the clutter.  So three quarters of this stuff never made its way back upstairs!

I have to admit that it wasn’t too easy getting rid of all of this, but I was ruthless and kept going.  Let me tell you, it felt really good at the end!  Actually, it felt incredible!  I loved the feeling of spaciousness in my closets and rearranged them in a way that made it possible to see everything.  I felt light, joyful and even younger.  And I felt in control because I knew what I had and where to find it.  Since then, I’ve developed the habit of going through my closets and drawers two or three times a year.  Now, I even crave the feeling of lightness that I get after a good round of decluttering and it doesn’t take much time at all.

Here are three guidelines that I’ve created for myself over the years. I hope they would be useful for you too:

Things in your home influence you.  Ask yourself how you want to feel and surround yourself with things that reflect and represent that.  Most of us want love, inspiration, joy, relaxation, prosperity, creativity, clarity, organization, harmony… you got the idea.  Let’s call it a certain sense of well being.  Whatever doesn’t represent that is clutter!

We change.  Our tastes develop and our goals shift as time goes by.  Look at your furniture, accessories and clothing and ask yourself: “Is this me or not me?  Does it reflect who I am today or who I want to be tomorrow?” Whatever doesn’t, is clutter!

Your home and the things in it are an extension of you.  So honor yourself by surrounding yourself with things you deserve, want and and love.  Everything else is clutter!

My work is based on the very simple principle that we are intimately connected with our environment and all the things in it, emotionally and energetically.  So we can shape how we feel by surrounding ourselves with things that represent how we want to feel.

Also read a blog article:  Transform Your Home into a Sanctuary with Feng Shui

Feng Shui for Teenagers

I wanted to share with you two very different stories of my work with teenagers’ spaces.  IMG_4479-1

Danielle was 15 when I consulted for her parents’ home. It was a beautiful, tastefully decorated suburban home. When I saw Danielle’s pink room with charming fairy tail princess white furniture I thought it is the room of five year old girl. I was pretty surprised and her mom explained that she doesn’t allow Danielle to make any changes. I could feel that Olivia loved her daughter very much but she was quite a perfectionist and didn’t trust that Danielle would make “right choices” decorating her room. Besides, Olivia was uncomfortable with “all of the teenage stuff” so she thought that she was “protecting her daughter from all of this”. I explained how important it was for Danielle to express who she was now and to make her own choices and suggested that Olivia should allow Danielle make some changes, beginning with hanging a few posters that represent something important to a 15 year old.

A year later I was called back and this time I’ve met Danielle. Her room was still the same, nothing changed. It came up in a conversation that she doesn’t perceive herself as a creative person and doesn’t quite know what she likes. Olivia was taken by surprise but immediately understood what happen. She said “Oh my God, it is totally my fault, we have to do something now!” Olivia’s confession helped Daniella to open up. We started to discuss colors and furniture options and Danielle started to get more and more interested in it and excited about the possibility of making changes. Quite spontaneously she started to come up with some pretty good ideas. I didn’t give Danielle too many guidelines, emphasizing that it is a good for her to try things and it is totally OK to make mistakes.  Many times I have observed in others and myself that fear of doing mistakes cripples our creativity and limits the flow of ideas and possibilities. It is a gift to our children to give them gentle support and provide them with opportunities to express themselves and learn from their mistakes and accomplishments.

Teenager’s rooms vary a great deal. It is quite easy for me to feel a teenager’s personality by just looking at their room. I can feel whether they are shy or confident, happy and balanced or angry and rebellious or depressed. Often parents whose children are not easy ask me for help after exhausting other resources.
I remember one case with a seriously depressed 13 years old boy who had a very dark green room with black curtains and some pretty disturbing posters. His mom said he requested those colors and despite her hesitation she helped him with it. I explained that her son created an environment that reflected his emotional state and no matter how much therapy he was doing his condition would hardly improve because his environment was depleting and depressing. Often it is very hard to convince teenagers to make any changes in their room but this was a case where I asked his mother to insist and suggested a more healing and uplifting color scheme.
Often parents report improvements in their children’s study and ability to concentrate after I suggest they move their children’s desk as well as improved sleep after I suggest moving their bed. Balancing the room with colors and natural elements helps to balance a child’s energy and their emotional state.

 

Choosing a good Feng Shui apartment: Yin-Yang lesson

Contemporary Dark Wood CabinetryI recently helped a client chose an apartment in a newly built five story building in Cambridge.  I was shown three beautiful luxury apartments that were similar in size and design so on the surface there were no obvious differences between them.  But in the end, there was one clear choice.  Here are some of the more subtle things I consider when analyzing a feng shui apartment qualities.

I rejected the first apartment right away because the electromagnetic radiation reading was too high. The electrical panel was in the bedroom (an unusual place) and having an elevated EMR for 8 hours while sleeping is just not a great idea.

The second apartment one was on the fourth floor overlooking a courtyard. The design elements were gorgeous: dark contemporary kitchen cabinets contrasted by light granite counter with a matching dark hardwood floor and sleek gray accent walls.

Everything looked beautiful, but dark. The apartment had windows facing the NW and in the middle of the day there was very little sunlight. I know that a good amount of light is important for people to feel balanced. If there is not enough natural light we start feeling depressed and uninspired. People feel best when there is a balance of yin and yang. In this case, a balance between dark and light.

The last apartment was on the fifth floor and also faced the NW. It had the same beautiful dark wood floors and kitchen cabinets, but the accent walls were lighter.  Being on the top floor opened up much more sunlight and a view of the sky over the opposite side of the building.  The darker interior was balanced by plenty of light making it the winner. My client agreed, remarking that this last unit just “felt better” than the others.

Feng Shui Tips for Wealth and a Client Story

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In feng shui, spring is associated with the Wood element which represents wealth and growth. The Wood element refers to a rising energy and is represented by growing plants (yin Wood) or trees (yang Wood). And because plants are nurtured by water these are complementing elements and both relate to wealth.

Four tips for how to raise energy in the southeast and unblock your wealth flow:

  • Check the southeast part of your home for clutter or broken and unwanted things. If there are any, clear them! This is blocking your wealth.
  • Check the southeast of your property for deteriorating structures, trees, piles of cut wood, etc.
  • Plant a beautiful special tree in the southeast. This will raise the chi of your property.
  • In traditional Chinese feng shui, this year the southeast is affected by the “Argumentative Star 3” which is countered by strong red colors. For example, use a red lamp, a red candle or flowers.
One client’s story is a perfect example.

I worked with Rochelle and Scott a few years ago on their property in Carlisle. Scott was a VP of a small technology company and Rochelle was in the process of starting a new career. She was studying art and was emerging as an artist. She had talent and wanted to make it big. Things were going pretty well for them to begin with, but there was a feeling of stagnation and they were curious if feng shui could help them create new opportunities for growth and success.

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When I consult I analyze not just the inside of the house but the whole property and even nearby land features and structures. The results for Rochelle and Scott’s exterior were promising but with one exception. There was a on old, large, deteriorating pine tree located in the southeastern part of the property. The southeast represents prosperity and wealth in feng shui.

My clients were almost ready to have the tree cut down after they learned that having deterioration in the southeast stagnates their finances. But after carefully examining the tree, I convinced them otherwise. The tree had to be healed even if this was more effort than simply removing it.

It is very beneficial to have a strong tree in the southeast as this creates support for the prosperity. They followed my advice and did a major clean up of the old pine and the surrounding area.

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When I came back there in the spring for a follow up I almost didn’t recognize the place! The tree was happy and the area felt vibrant.

Not long after my visit I got this email from Rochelle: “Scott was just given a nice bonus at work and I have just sold five of my paintings at my first art exhibit out west. They just called and asked me to keep my art up for another month!”

These clients didn’t stay in this house for long. Soon after my visit Scott received a big promotion and the family moved to the Bay area.

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The tree and the area after

When I consult I always look what’s happening in the southeastern part of the property. Sometimes I find things like an old shack, a pile of dead wood or even a compost bin. Anything that is broken or deteriorating will stagnate your finances!

Please comment, share your experience or ask questions.

Happy Spring!

Natalia

 

 

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